Frequently Asked Questions
about the aTLC Proclamation and the Blueprint of Actions
What is aTLC doing with the Proclamation and Blueprint?
We are disseminating the findings of aTLC and its Affiliates via our website and online discussion groups. We have speakers available for public presentations, and a guide to children's and parenting books. We held two summit meetings of international experts in related fields. We continue to compile data supporting the Blueprint of Principles and Actions and will be sponsoring research in areas where none exists. Your tax-deductible donation will help us make this happen!
Who is aTLC's initial audience?
Ultimately aTLC hopes to reach everyone. At this early stage of our work, we are addressing the one-quarter of people in Western culture who are most ready to hear our message-- the so-called "Cultural Creatives" or "Early Adopters."
As growing numbers of people embrace and implement aTLC's Proclamation and Blueprint, the information will be accessed by an ever-widening population.
What do you mean by "evidence-linked"?
There is a large and growing body of scientific evidence supporting the Blueprint.
aTLC cites this research wherever documentation is available, and encourages
research in areas where more evidence is needed.
Are the Proclamation and Blueprint complete?
These documents are designed to be works-in-progress. aTLC's review process encourages ongoing refinement.
What if I feel guilty when I learn that I am not doing (or didn't do) everything "right"?
Don't confuse guilt with regret. Guilt results from doing something that we
knew was "wrong" at the time. Regret comes from later learning we
could have done something better. When we understand the difference between
guilt and regret, we can move beyond blaming ourselves for what we didn't know
or weren't able to do because we later learned more and are able to do better.
How can I deal with any regrets about things I wish I had done differently?
Few parents feel they have parented perfectly. None of us likes to think that there is anything we have done, or not done, that may have compromised our children's optimal development. We are all products of our time and culture, as were our parents and their ancestors. We could not act on information that we did not have. Even when parents have the information, sometimes cultural and economic conditions limit parents' ability to implement what they know would be best for their children.
Children are by nature forgiving. When children see adults growing and changing for the better, they are likely to let go of their hurts, anger and resentment about anything they may have experienced in the past. We can transform any regret we may feel into motivation to better understand and meet the needs of our children.
Recognizing that there are things I did or didn't do in the past, what can I do now with this new information?
Children never outgrow the need for being seen, heard, touched, and valued.
When we honor the wholeness of our children's spirit and treat them with more
love and respect for their unique rhythm, character, and ability, we can compensate
for many of our children's unmet needs. When we nurture our children in these
ways, we also heal ourselves. The most important thing we can do with this information
is to implement as many age-appropriate actions as possible (such as those described
in the aTLC Blueprint) to strengthen our bond with our children.
Links to aTLC core documents and extracts
Blueprint of Principles and Actions (complete)
(You may want to start with the following abridged versions for a quick overview)
Download printer-friendly (PDF) versions of aTLC's core documents.